Category: Growth

Break Ups

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They make us more poetic.  Don’t they?  I will share with you what I wrote after one of my breakups.  It lasted two years and ended in the year 2000.  I don’t regret that relationship because it was awesome while it lasted.  It helped me grow as a woman, as a doctor and as an individual.

I’ll always remember that windy day in November when you said you’ll love me forever.  Said you’ll leave me never.

Yet, here it is now May and I’m alone cause you went away.  What did those words actually mean?  I was fooled because they were so serene.

I miss you so much.  I long for your touch. The way you used to kiss my lips…………The way you pressed yourself against my hips……….

Every night was filled with so much passion. Your love never felt rationed. You used to hold me ever so tightly in embrace. Your memory I can’t seem to erase. You are deeply engraved in the confines of my heart.  Why did you choose to depart?

Was our love not real?  All my love, did you not feel?  I don’t care if you see me cry!  Damn you for saying goodbye!  

If you are going through a break up at this moment don’t let anger and sadness take over your heart and soul.  Use the pain to write awesome short stories and poetry.  You will be amazed with your own written words and it is also therapeutic. Go ahead and give it a try.  Let me know how it goes.  Namaste.

Hugs from Brooklyn
Signing off
Guady G

Our Photos

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I stare at the photos and I wonder. Where did it all go wrong? I think I was too young. I was only 26 years old.  Chronologically I was old enough but mentally and emotionally I was still immature.

I wanted you to love me so I could feel worthy of being loved. I wanted you to nourish me so I could satiate my deep longing for approval and acceptance. I said yes to becoming your wife. Was I even worthy of being asked? I always wondered.

I tried to be the good wife. I was dutiful, I cleaned often, shopped for groceries and I shared a bed with you night after night.

As you held me tight I wondered if you wished it had been someone else. I wasn’t pretty enough or in good shape. I blamed you for feeling inadequate until the day came and our union seemed to be on the road to dissolution. I made vows with God as my witness and just 5 yrs later I was turning my back on them.

I felt like such a failure. You moved out and finally also moved on. I was just there being idle still feeling sorry for myself. I was still pointing fingers at others for my own devised misery.

Then one day I truly prayed. I realized I always asked for things to miraculously change in my life although I never did a thing to help them change. This time I asked for guidance and strength. I needed to learn to be in my own company and to love it.

After much crying I woke up. I started truly loving myself. I dealt with my ugly past and recognized what kept triggering me to feel unworthy of being loved.

I now travel on this journey learning daily about myself. My marriage ended but it helped me grow and it gave me a beautiful daughter. My past whether nice or ugly was brought into the light! I forgave myself and all those that had ever hurt me. Yes even those bullies. I had finally realized that life was great and that I was great. I was alive!! I am alive! I promised myself that day to never snooze again. I had found someone truly wonderful to always love. Myself.

I am happy to say we all get along. There are no hard feelings between my ex and I. His wife is lovely and adores my daughter now 21. We can all share a meal together. We can chat and laugh together. Life goes on.

When people say timing is everything, I feel that is not quite correct. Sometimes people enter our lives to help us grow and to teach us a lesson. They wake us up. No union is perfect but if the work is done on truly loving and knowing oneself then marriages have a chance at lasting a lifetime and being happy.  I wasn’t ready the first time but I am now.

My advice to those contemplating getting married is make sure you truly love yourself first otherwise any comment can cause arguments. It will hurt your feelings eventually. Don’t laugh this off. You matter. Another person should not complete you. They should add to your life instead.

With much love
Guady G
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You were right!

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I do love myself more.

4464228A-D16B-4A59-A27B-52FD00C36A65I tried to love you but you were hardly ever in the now.  You were either living in the past being tormented or worried about the future.  You tried to change me so you could feel more at ease with the lack of yourself.  You called me stubborn, conceited and said I was full of myself.

I will never change because I love myself.  I truly love myself.  That will never change. My attributes of greatness are mine and my inadequacies are mine too.  I love them both because they are a part of me.

I tried to love you but how could I?  You don’t even like yourself.  All the love I gave you was met with so much resistance.  It bounced right back onto me.

Yes you were right!  I do love myself more and that will  never change!

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Guady G
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This Wonder should make you wonder!

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5EFDA14E-A87F-49EC-88BC-BC5495BA7046Look at this beauty! It’s the Aurora Borealis. The sad thing is that it is speculated to lessen in brightness and occurrence due to less sunlight . I think the collective negative energy in our world is trying to win out.

Did you every stop to wonder why in recent years there has been an influx of information regarding enlightenment?  The Secret, the Power and so many other books , podcasts and videos have been made.  If you read them are you practicing them?

It is our obligation to elevate ourselves to do more than just take up space in this universe. We each have been given a gift and we must share it with the world. We need to love and be loved.  We need to forgive others and ourselves. We need to stop focusing on the negative and turn our hearts to the greatness that is being alive. We need to see the world as we did when we first opened our eyes at birth! Everything should be a wonder! All we see, hear, touch, feel and speak should be with amazement! We are alive!!!

This beautiful collection of colors is present today despite all the terrible occurrences in our universe. But how long can it hold on? Will you be the Dr. Strange of your own life and fight against the Darkness aka collective negative energy that is trying to take over our world?  Are you okay with the Aurora Borealis lessening and perhaps one day being  gone?  Perhaps it is time to be your own superhero.
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In the words of the beloved Michael Jackson — make that change! It’s just you with that person in the mirror! Don’t let that be your hindrance.

In the words of the Roman poet Horace- CARPE DIEM!!

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My Mother’s Love

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Blanca pegYesterday was my mother’s birthday and I am blessed to have her for 80 yrs thus far. As my family was gathered around the table singing happy birthday I was transported back to my younger years. I started thinking of the thousand of ways she helped me become the woman I am today. You see while many can’t stand their mothers I actually adore mine. I am not claiming it is a perfect relationship, but it is mine and it is as perfect as it can be for me.

Growing up a very timid child I didn’t quite like going to school. Being intelligent and shy were not the recipe for having best friends. I withstood bullying at the hands of my peers and was ecstatic when the clock would strike three. I would leave school and run into my  mother’s arms. It was my safety net.  In her arms I could be smart, awkward, uni-browed, and shy. It didn’t quite matter that boys thought I was ugly or girls thought I was boring. My mother always said to me that I was beautiful and that she loved me not a little but a whole lot. I have no idea how being a mother of five she could make me feel so important as if I were her only child. I see now I have always been blessed. My mother until this day has the greatest capacity to love.

Growing up there were strangers to me that moved into our home. It annoyed me that we had these other people in our house sharing our utensils but then I grew to love them too. Now I understand that she was helping these people to get back on their feet. Sometimes she charged them a few dollars but other times she just let them live with us for free.  Who does that except a person with a big heart? My mother has always been very giving of her time and mostly of her love.

During my first months post pregnancy she moved in with me to help me out. She took care of my crying baby so I could sleep and my husband go to work. She made food for my daughter which she enjoyed unlike mine which she spit up.

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When I got divorced my daughter moved in with her so I could finish my residency. When I was studying for the medical license she went on a trip to Florida and took my daughter with her so I could study freely. I am a doctor today and she still helps me out. She cooks for me and still does my laundry for me sometimes. I am vegan and even yesterday on her own birthday she made rice pudding vegan style. My mother loves me and she loves all five us and all her grandchildren. She loves each one of us to the greatest power. She loves each of her friends this way too. I am very lucky I know I am.

I am very grateful to have a mom like I do which is why my goal in life is to love more and to be grateful even more. Perhaps it is time to love your mother. Look at what she does right and focus on that. If she does nothing right then forgive her and walk away but don’t let bitterness grow in your heart. When you become a parent then be different. Don’t pass on what was done wrong onto your children because otherwise, it just becomes like an aggressive cancer and spreads everywhere. Love her and above all love yourself. Don’t start tomorrow. Start today because tomorrow is not promised.

Hugs from Brooklyn
Grateful always.
Guady G.